Two years as Mrs. Robinson

This blog is a little delayed (surprise, surprise) but better late than never, as I always say!

Corey and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary a little over a week ago on the 4th of July. It feels like so much longer than two years. And I mean that in a good way :) It's probably because in those 2 years we've done so much. 

When we "re-met" each other in February of 2009, I never thought in a million years we would end up where we are. It's so amazing how we really have no clue what God has planned for us. We moved in together in October of that same year and Corey proposed exactly a year after we re-met each other on February 13, 2010. At that point we had planned on getting married in March of 2011 but we got an unexpected surprise in April when I found out I was pregnant! With the help of my mom, aunts and cousins, we moved our wedding way up and planned a wedding from start to finish in just 8 weeks! We chose the 4th of July as our wedding date because it was on a Sunday that year (finding a venue on a Saturday with that late of notice was impossible) and it was just in time for me to still have a small enough pregnant belly to not look pregnant in a wedding gown. I was 12 weeks pregnant when we got married. 

This is one of my favorite pictures from our wedding that captures the date 

After we got married, I got a position teaching Texas History at the school I was already working at. We started home shopping in August as well and bought our home in September. Then our precious Rex was born the day after Christmas to top off our whirlwind of a year! So, I graduated from college (Dec 09), got engaged, got married, started teaching, bought a house, and had a baby all within a year! Do you see why it seems so much longer than 2 years??? :) 

As we came upon our anniversary, we were stronger as a couple than we ever had been before. I'm more in love with my husband than I ever have been before. I started thinking about what helped us get to that point. We have fun together, we're silly together, we have a beautiful son together, we balance each other out with our personalities. Then I realized a surprising thing that made us strong: Fighting and arguing. What??? Fighting and arguing?? If someone had told me years ago that fighting and arguing are what would help make my marriage stronger, I probably would have run away from the idea of marriage!

 Let me explain... One of my favorite things about Corey and I is our ability to communicate with each other. When we have a disagreement, of course we start off butting heads. But after we both cool off from the initial disagreement, we almost always are able to not only discuss the situation calmly, but come to a resolution together. The key though, is not only getting your own feelings out, but listening to the others feelings. If you are not listening to someone's feelings, it is likely that nothing will be accomplished. Corey and I were 22 and 23 when we got married. That's pretty young. We are still growing as individuals. We have to pray that we continue to grow together and never apart. Marriage is not an easy thing, especially when little ones come into the picture. Children are such a beautiful blessing and a wonderful addition to a marriage but to say that children bring only joy and no challenge to a marriage would be naive. I would have never imagined that one of our biggest fights would end up being one of our most triumphant moments as a couple. An argument that could have been so detrimental to our relationship ended up being one of the best things that happened to us which is why I am surprisingly thankful for those fights. Now...just to clarify...just because arguments typically help make us stronger doesn't mean we do it all the time! It's the times that we do fight that this happens :) 

The perfect song for this: Jason Mraz's "I won't give up"

My favorite line: "We got a lot to learn. God knows we're worth it. No, I won't give up."

So next time you get into a fight with your significant other or even a family member or friend, try to look at it as a growing and learning moment rather than something negative in your relationship.  

I doubt he will read this but if you do, Corey, I love you more than words can describe and I'm so thankful for every kiss, hug, happy moment and even every fight. Can't wait to see what the future holds!